Jan 03, 2012 / by Alisa Hafen / No Comments

I was talking with a friend the other day about the pros and cons of setting New Year’s Resolutions. She has put a lot of thought into this year’s goals, as she had been unable to achieve those she had set last year.

Looking back, she discovered she just hadn’t had the time to do all she had set out to do. She had spread herself way to thin, and secretly, she wished she had made more time for herself.

The one thing we never seem to do is allow time for ourselves. This problem seems even more pervasive as we have to work harder to meet the challenges of today’s economy.

Creating more personal time tops the list of goals many people want to accomplish; however, with work time, family time and social time all demanding our attention, we are constantly juggling our day-to-day responsibilities.

Finding as little as 15 – 30 minutes per day of uninterrupted, relaxing “me” time is challenging at best.

We all instinctively know that when we take time for ourselves to pursue our passions, do the things we truly enjoy, relax or even do nothing at all; we end up healthier and happier.

“Me” time allows us to de-stress, unwind and rejuvenate, as well as renew, heal and create an inner peace.

When I ask my clients why they don’t plan more “me” time in their schedules, three common themes arise: not enough time, feeling guilty, or feeling selfish. The more giving and caring a person you are, the more these feelings seem to emerge.

My dear friend and colleague, Kevin Hall, recently said that “to believe” means to “be love.” When I believe in myself, I love myself. When I love myself, I treat myself with respect. When I treat myself with love and respect, the opportunities for growth and fulfillment are abundant.

January is named after Janus, the mythical Roman god with to faces. One looks backward at what lies behind and the other looks forward to what lies ahead. It is an ancient reminder that we have a choice to live in the past or live in the present.”

“People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something one finds, it is something one creates.”
Thomas S. Szasz