Quite the “nerve” and “straightforwardness” of a flight attendant!
I received a bouquet of flowers from a flight attendant on trip from Honolulu to Salt Lake City yesterday.
Was it an act of kindness? A gesture of love? Was it that “Christmas time of year” sort of giving? Was it someone that I knew or that knew me from the past? Was she making an advance (quite doubtably)? Or perhaps all of the above are true.
As I waited to board the last leg of my flight schedule this week, headed to Salt Lake City direct from Honolulu, a few of our flight crew boarded the plane first and were noticeably carrying beautiful arrangements of flowers. The flowers were exquisite, both in fashion and assortment. It was obvious that somebody put a lot of time into creating such a beautiful piece of art. “Surely those weren’t cheap,” was my first thought.
I have been blessed in my life. From the time I was very young till now, I have been taught the value of working hard. We had a huge garden when I was growing up that required a lot of weeding and we had “chores” every day. When I turned 16, I had a job working part-time at a movie theater. I was taught how important it was to be on time, to give 100% while at work. It paid off.
We were involved with sports, so there wasn’t a lot of idle time. And 20 years ago, there certainly wasn’t any of the internet games, game boys, etc. And all our friends were in the same boat as we were. Our parents kept us involved during the entire year, whether it was sports or work.
Most of us know what the above title means. And I’m hoping that we have all had the opportunity to do this. It is so simple to do that I think it would happen more often if we just thought about it.
I have a friend that works at a restaurant and he told me that every week, a widower comes in for dinner and, while there, he’ll look around for a family (usually a large family having dinner) and when he goes to pay his bill, he’ll ask the hostess if $75.00 will cover their bill. When she says yes, he leaves her enough to cover the tab and the tip. After he leaves, and has been gone for several minutes, she goes over and tells the family what had happened – that their bill has been taken care of. They are completely surprised! And so very grateful.
Have you ever had one of those days when you have so many thoughts running through your mind, that you can’t get them written down fast enough? If this happens during the day; that’s not so bad. But when it happens in the middle of the night, and you aren’t able to grab a pad and pen, it becomes a little more difficult. That’s when you depend on your memory for the next morning!
Thank goodness I have been blessed with a pretty good memory. I need to rely on it, as my memory is that which predicts what I am going to write about the next day. If I can make someone laugh, smile, or encourage them to “pay it forward” with a smile or an unexpected phone call to a friend or family member, then I have had a great day!!!
Each day of my rehabilitation, I gained confidence and ability. Having lost all strength in my stomach muscles, I found it nearly impossible to maintain my balance
if I leaned to one side or the other. Sitting on a mat with my legs straight in front of me, I would attempt to raise my hands, first one inch, then two.
Raising one arm ever so slightly was enough to topple me sideways. I hadn’t the strength to sit back up again on my own. I soon realized that my center was my trunk,
my chest. If I maintained balance there, I could incrementally work at raising my arms. Soon, understanding this concept, I could raise both arms shoulder level.
As I laid on my hotel bed late one night after a full day of meetings at the National Speakers Association Convention, I was scrolling through Instagram. I came across a post that caught my attention. It was that of a dear sweet family member. The post was a picture with a quote on it. ”You’re going into a season where you’re about to experience breakthrough after breakthrough because what you went through didn’t break you.” This caught my attention. I wondered what was going on, because as far as I knew, things in her life seemed “perfect” from the outside. I preceded to read the text that she posted with the quote. I preceded to read about how several months ago she was tired of dealing with her deep depression. This was something I knew nothing about.
We are sent here to this planet to make a difference – I always felt it. Now I know it. We are given essential tools and talents and it is our job to make something of what we have. And what do we have?
Eyes to see; ears to hear; a brain to think; arms and hands to work; legs to get us where we are meant to go. I was born and raised in an able-bodied world – and there I would excel. Or so I thought.
In my world, a man’s worth was measured by what he could do – especially physically. A real man got up early, worked hard all day, and went to bed tired but happy, because of all he accomplished. A real man was the provider and protector. A real man was ‘the man.’
On that day when my life changed, I had a choice. I could resist what was happening, or I could receive change into my life and move forward with it. Those two words, “resist” or “receive” make the difference in our life experience. Life happens. While we wish it wasn’t so, tragedy happens. Change is the way of things. At each fork in the road, at each obstacle, or at each two-thousand pound bale of hay that crashes down on top of us, we must choose our response.
Let’s examine those two words. “Resist” means to fend off, or to keep from giving in. “Receive” means to hear or to see. It also means to have “met with”. When tragedy and change come our way, do we resist them and fight them, or do we hear their message, see their requirement and
meet them squarely? I am not the only quadriplegic. I am not the only person with physical limitations or health concerns. I am certainly not the
only husband seeking to provide a living for his family. And yet, I know many who face tragedies, big and small, who choose to resist required change.
Memorial Day to me isn’t about war or all the feelings that go along with it. It’s about individuals who chose to serve in the United States Military, they chose to possibly make the ultimate sacrifice. Chances are there is a veterans’ cemetery where you live, or several of them. You’ll find many soldiers buried there who returned from the war and lived full, productive lives. But you’ll no doubt find a bunch of headstones that tell the story of an abbreviated life. Each of those markers represents the crushed dream of a wife, a parent, a brother, a sister.
People talk about “leading by example”. By incorporating the following attitudes and practices, you will not only improve your own life, but also begin to fashion yourself into the kind of person that others will follow and emulate, which is the very definition of leading by example.
Life is a creative art. Expectations are often self-fulfilling. If we expect life to be good; if we believe it is filled with opportunities and cause for celebration, then we will notice those things and live so as to promote them, even without conscious intent.
Positive Thinking- Positive Results
People who embrace positive thinking are capable of accomplishing tasks that seem impossible because they believe in solutions. When you believe you can do something difficult – and you succeed – many doors open for you.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a huge fan of The Star Wars movies. I have them all and my family and I have watched them many times. When George Lucas succeeded in making these films, there were those who said the special effects he wanted to create hadn’t ever been done before and couldn’t be done. He decided to create a company and produce those ‘impossible’ special effects.
Promises are easily made. Keeping them often proves more difficult because when we are pressured to strive always for perfection, we find it simpler to agree to undertake impossible tasks than to say no.
Whenever you give your word to someone, you have to follow through on it. You have to keep your word, because that’s the right thing to do. Because that’s the respectable thing to do. Otherwise, don’t make promises you don’t intend to keep, and don’t commit yourself to things that you aren’t willing to follow through on, regardless of what might possibly happen in the future.